How to Stop Feeding Fear

If it’s your job to eat a frog, it’s best to do it first thing in the morning. And If it’s your job to eat two frogs, it’s best to eat the biggest one first.
— Mark Twain

Fear comes in many forms: Fear of the unknown. Fear of loss. Fear of failure. Fear of shame. Even fear of success. For some, this fear is crippling. It can hold us back from making decisions or keep us from doing what needs to be done.

The one thing that feeds fear is time. 

I love this quote by Mark Twain. I heard a variation of it that says, “If you are going to eat a frog, don’t stare at it for too long.” Time is the one thing that feeds fear. The longer we wait to take action, the more fear can build. Eventually this fear will seem insurmountable and cause more harm than good. 

I want to stop here and say that fear is not bad. Fear is a mechanism that protects us. Our response to fear should be awareness and reflection. The important thing is to weigh the outcomes and act. 

What fears have you fed with time? 

What fears keep you from action? 

 Tips to Overcome Fear:

1. When you fear something, take time to reflect on why you are afraid. Write it down and judge whether it is useful or not useful.  

2. Practice putting your biggest fears first on your calendar or todo list.  

3. Think back on the things you feared but overcame. Were you fears justified? 

4. Remember that failure is simply the gateway to learning. So logically by fearing it, you are training yourself to be afraid of learning. 

5. Practice awareness of fear. When you find you are afraid, remove the element of time and get it done immediately.  

 “If you are going to eat a frog, don’t stare at it for too long”

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